I never imagined my wellness would consume so much of my day. It works, it’s exciting and liberating to see positive results even though medical science has given up on me. Healing and managing a chronic disease demands a change in lifestyle. Patients across the world are obsessed with wanting a solution in the form of tablets and medicine. Letting go of our negative thoughts, eating the right nutritious food, exercise and most important our meditation – cannot be put into a capsule. Until we make the effort to change the things that are harming us both physically and emotionally, chronic disease will continue exploding in our society. Stress and outside trauma can become a silent killer for those diagnosed with a chronic or autoimmune condition.
We have conditioned our body and mind with past negative behaviour. We blame ourselves and allow our cells to be filled with the vibration of guilt, frustration, and “not good enough”. It’s the emotion that keeps us anchored to the past. Healing starts with loving ourselves on a deep level. It means forgiving the past and accepting the present moment. Quantum physicists have found that there are more neurological pathways going from the heart to the brain than from the brain to the heart. This is important information. This means that it’s the heart that controls the brain which in turn controls the rest of the body. So when the heart is sad our entire system is compromised. Now here is the thing…happiness is a conscious choice. Hence, it’s the story we tell ourselves in our heads that determines our level of joy and happiness when life sends us a curveball.
Once again life has thrown me another huge challenge. My entire world has just taken an unbelievable shift into a direction I never imagined possible. After 12 years of intense hard work and too many sacrifices, our source of income has been shattered once again. I have two choices, I can either cry and withdraw from the world or accept my circumstances and trust that this too shall pass like the difficult times have done in the past. The option to have a crying session and wallow in self-pity was oh so tempting. I felt hurt, abused and disrespected. I am well aware of what negative emotions and trauma do to my already compromised body…a recipe for another relapse and a traumatic trip to the emergency room for the usual high dose of the solumedrol drugs. My options are clear. If I want to stay away from a dangerous MS relapse then I have to consciously monitor my thoughts, words and actions. I am choosing to stay focused on positive options moving forward and to keep my conversations light. I have intensified my Take-charge Wellness Formula.
The Malawell program discussed in our self-help book, A Flaming Challenge, uses a Take-charge wellness formula that I developed after being diagnosed with four medically incurable conditions. The Malawell Take-charge wellness formula states that wellness = Love,(ie healing the heart), + ( a change in our food choices + a change in thought + activity) X (Discipline and motivation) – the triggers. The Take-Charge wellness formula has taken me from the wheelchair to the dance floor. This important formula is detailed in the self-help book, A Flaming Challenge.
Gratitude is an extremely powerful way to shift from a space of sadness and hopelessness. Gratitude unshackles us from toxic emotions. Saying a sincere thank you changes the energy in our body and ignites healing. With tears running down my face I force myself to say thank you for the things I still do have. Gratitude is a deep appreciation for someone (or something) that produces longer-lasting positivity. I decided to trade fear, frustration and resentment for gratitude and love. Let’s open our hearts to new possibilities.
We cannot continue to do the same things and expect a different result. Until we fully understand why we need to take the time to regroup and recentre, we will never manage keeping our emotional state a healthy one. Until we shift our consciousness about our true purpose of this human birth, we will remain locked in a pity party. We need to let go of the unconscious program of believing that our outer world is controlling our inner world. As described in our book, A Flaming Challenge, I believe healing any chronic condition is an inside job and failing to manage our stress on the inside is the biggest drama of all. “Dear Universe, I know you are listening…. Please grant me the strength and wisdom to embrace with confidence and trust, this new adventure and flow of energy that you have lined up for me”.
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